B.J. Knefley

Much can be said about choices; they happen all the time. Many decisions affect not only the individual making them but also those around them. We often overlook how our choices impact the lives of others, but they truly do. Taking responsibility for our choices is another matter entirely. Many people prefer to blame others for what happens rather than own up to their decisions. Consequences are the results of our choices, and sometimes they are not pleasant. However, these consequences are normal outcomes of decision-making and can teach us to make better choices in the future. Have you ever noticed how selfish some people can be in their choices, acting as if they are the only ones who matter?

This morning, I told my wife that I wanted to take a vacation day. I know what you’re thinking: how can a retired person take a vacation day? Isn’t every day a vacation? Well, not really. There are always things to do, places to go, and people to see. I have at least two appointments on my schedule today that, although pleasant, still feel like obligations. My wife might not have heard me or taken me seriously, as she has gone into town to shop. So, I decided to write instead. I guess my vacation day will have to wait, at least for now.

You might be wondering why I’m writing about choices. The reason is simple: I’m feeling tired this morning—tired of dealing emotionally, physically, and spiritually with the choices of others. These are choices that I have no control over, yet they significantly affect me, often more than I would like. To make matters worse, those making these choices don’t seem willing to take responsibility or accept the consequences that come with their decisions. It’s as if they believe their choices are insignificant. Sadly, if they don’t learn to manage things, they will repeat the same poor choices in the future. For me, as well as for anyone else who finds themselves in a similar situation, the best course of action is to seek solitude and comfort in His presence. Therefore, I sought a vacation day; sometimes, we just need to quiet our surroundings and reflect. Think about it.